The Nigerian Lady Mentality

I try to grasp the reason you as a woman would
be ashamed to wear your natural hair when it’s
actually easier TO WEAR and should project a
more youthful you. I like to wear wigs and even
used to wear weaves in the 1990s. In fact I
stopped wearing weaves because the corn-roll
base hurt my scalp and I can’t just change my
looks like I want to…I would have to keep that
same look for 2 to 3 weeks before I can
change it, which I find very annoying and also
as I’d like to wear my natural hair and stroke
it freely.
I came to discover people believe you are poor
or are not in the circle of the big girls if you
are not wearing weaves or not wearing
Brazilian hair… hhahahaha!! Ridiculous!!! What a
cheap mentality! Consequential to this warped
perception, young women whore their bodies,
snatch their friends’ partners and other
women’s husbands and indulge in all manner of
immoralities just to buy and wear Brazilian
hair so they can belong to the circle of big
girls.
People constantly express shock at the sight
of my hair, my natural hair… They are not
accustomed to seeing ladies in Nigeria wear
their natural hair and so confidently like I do…
yes I am proud to wear my natural hair and I
do so often, even the days I wear a wig out as
soon as I get home I would take it off and let
my hair loose. It feels good for your hair to
breathe… ld mostly wearar my natural hair or
braids as i believe women of color are more
beautiful and original with natural hair, head
gears, afro or braids and I agree! Now I love
to experiment with wigs and all but I have to
wear my natural hair, crazy style sometimes
and I always feel more comfortable.
No you are wrong! Your Brazilian weave does
not distinguish you, define your personality or
your class in society… that thinking is
distorted! No your Brazilian hair and weaves
don’t make you any more beautiful…yes it’s
true that your hair should be groomed but it
must not be done with Brazilian weave to look
good.
Stop degrading yourselves and selling your
soul to the devil for cheap material
possessions just to elevate yourself. Your
problem is not the weave and the brand of
your hair, your problem is low self esteem. You
have a low estimation of yourself and need to
build your confidence through discovering and
loving the uniqueness of you and understanding
that your flaws are the catalyst to your
growth, so that your attitude towards life is
healthier.